50 Brave Blog Posts About Coming Out

One of the most important, impactful moments of a gay, lesbian, bisexual, transsexual, asexual, pansexual or queer individual’s life is finally breaking free from the socially-constructed closet and accepting that particular facet. The decision to come out comes fraught with a maelstrom of psychological, social, filial, emotional, mental and physical stresses – and due to the GLBTQ community’s status as marginalize minorities, they also have to fear discrimination, intolerance and (saddest of all) violence. Not to mention criminalization, occasionally punishable by death, in some nations. Because of this, it takes an impressive amount of personal integrity and strength to slough off society’s heteronormative expectations and be true to one’s own self. These incredibly brave blog posts represent a broad spectrum – though most of them sport positive and hopeful tones – of people coming forth to proudly accept their sexuality and asking loved ones for their support.

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1.) “Coming Out Late In Life” at Gay Family Values

Coming out as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transsexual or queer later on in life – especially after marriage and kids – poses its own unique set of emotions. One YouTube channel compiles the stories of different individuals, who hope to reach out to others in the same situation to show them that they are not alone.

2.) “How To Say It?” at James Randi Educational Foundation

Famed magician and pseudoscience debunker James Randi feels that opening up about his homosexuality lifted a massive weight off his chest and allowed him to become the man he always wanted to be – at age 82!

3.) “Coming Out” at My Big Fat Greek Gay Blog

When the time comes to open up and be honest about one’s sexuality, the potential for relationships with family and friends stand as one of the biggest concerns. This beautiful, hopeful story proves how coming out can strengthen connections between loved ones.

4.) “I Came Out and Want to Find Support for My Mom” at About.com: GLBT Teens

When teenagers come out, their parents may want to show their support and learn more about raising a GLBTQ child through different sociopolitical organizations such as PFLAG.

5.) “Coming Out to Grandma and Grandpa” at Queer Sighted

Older generations have a reputation as less tolerant of diversity, but Kenneth Hill’s beautiful, brave story proves these perceptions as not always true.

6.) “Gay British Army Trooper Speaks Out About Coming Out” at Towelroad

One British trooper takes the plunge and opens up to his comrades about his sexuality, finding himself surprised at how fine with it they all seemed.

7.) “Gay West Point grads come out” at 365Gay

38 West Point graduates banded together to form the Knights Out organization in protest of the American military’s “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy.

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8.) “Out Of The Closet” at Love Girls

Michelle Handley confesses that her coming out story lacks any “particularly exciting or drama filled” elements, but still hopes that she can inspire others to embrace themselves and bravely reveal it to their loved ones.

9.) “How To Tell Your Parents…” at The Gaytheist Agenda

A couple of helpful videos and articles provide great assistance for individuals struggling to tell their parents about their sexual and religious leanings.

10.) “Scouting For All Speech On National Coming Out Day, 2009” at Pam’s House Blend

Scouting For All hopes to convince the Boy Scouts of America to lift its discriminatory practices against the GLBTQ and atheist communities, and one parent shares her struggles with having to keep her transwoman status quiet and ask her son to deny her in order for him to obtain the rank of Eagle Scout.

11.) “Neil Patrick Harris On Coming Out” at Joe.My.God.

In his own words, actor Neil Patrick Harris discusses his difficulties publicly coming out with the ladies of The View.

12.) “Guest Post: Mystery Will Out” at GLBT Reading

Memoirist Gregory Gerard likens the confusion that many young members of the GLBTQ community feel before accepting their sexuality to old mystery radio plays – an experience that he himself underwent.

13.) “How Do You Show Yourself Compassion?” at MyOutSpirit.com

Some GLBTQ individuals – most likely those who grew up in homes sticking to religions opposing homosexuality – sometimes experience a degree of self-loathing upon coming out. Life coach and shamanic healer Mary Anne Flanagan did, and she wants to use her talents and experiences to make sure that others learn to love themselves.

14.) “Methodist minister confides to congregation that he is a transgender man” at OregonLive.com

Rev. David Weekley bravely stood up in front of his Methodist congregation and told them that he had actually been born a female, but never felt like one. He believed that opening up to his followers, largely Japanese-Americans, would prove therapeutic and help them find some common ground when it comes to struggling as minorities.

15.) “Tonex: Opening Up About Hysteria Over Homosexuality” at Black Voices

Award-winning gospel singer Tonex (Anthony Williams III) still feels very connected to his spirituality, resigning his strict Christian upbringing with his homosexuality and hoping to encourage youth struggling with their sexuality to open up, take a stand and understand that they are not alone and unloved.

16.) “Coming Out Stories – National Coming Out Day” at A World of Progress

Coming out stories are as varied as the individuals in the GLBTQ community themselves, as this wonderful post demonstrates.

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17.) “Out of the closet – Ulla (South Africa)” at GLBTQ Jamaica Blog Watch

Spending time in the United Kingdom inspired one woman to finally realize her lesbianism and open up to her family about the discovery.

18.) “Coming Out Stories” at Get Your Queer On!

Get Your Queer On! hosts a broad variety of incredibly brave coming out stories by gays, lesbians, transsexuals, asexuals, bisexuals, pomosexuals and others – all of which deserve inclusion here.

19.) “A Teen’s Poem that you absolutely MUST read!” at I’m Here. I’m Queer. What the Hell Do I Read?

14-year-old Ethan wants other teenagers who struggle with understanding their sexuality to read his poem and hopefully realize that they are not alone in the world and help guide them towards accepting themselves.

20.) “Gay Grandfather and Gay Grandson Talk with NPR” at Mombian

2 generations of gay men offer NPR a unique glimpse into the struggles they faced coming out (and staying closeted) in different time periods and amongst their families.

21.) “The Awakening of a Dumb (Gay) American” at Big Hollywood

For Charles Winecoff, accepting his political leanings came saddled with similar struggles as the ones he dealt with when coming out of the sexual closet.

22.) “Letting Go of Internalized Homophobia” at The Bilerico Project

The first step of coming out oftentimes involves conquering the fear of the unknown and external discrimination, and anyone hoping to step out of the closet needs to learn how to overcome any kernels of self-loathing before moving on to family and friends.

23.) “Interview with Pepe Johnson” at Average Gay Joe

The story of a U.S. Army Sergeant discharged under the tenets of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” inspires an Average Gay Joe blogger to expound upon his own experiences in and out of the closet and military alike.

24.) “Memories of Harvey Milk” at Susie Bright’s Journal

A screening of the movie Milk prompts Susie Bright to discuss what the politician meant to some friends back in San Francisco, one of whom associates a personal meeting with him with the frightening task of coming out.

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25.) “…and still more mullings” at Fetch me my axe

This fun little story looks back on one lesbian’s first few experiences with other women following her official outing.

26.) “An Orthodox Jew And ‘Coming Out’” at The Daily Dish

The Atlantic’s Andrew Sullivan reminds readers that the struggle to “come out” is not relegated exclusively to the GLBTQ community.

27.) “Times Change, Relationships Change, But Coming Out Doesn’t Change You” at The New Civil Rights Movement

Eloquent and effecting, Caleb Eigsti’s coming out story epitomizes the importance of staying strong and maintaining integrity in the face of adversity.

28.) “The 40 in 40 Days Project: 8. The First Gay Club (1972)” at troubled diva

Read over one man’s furtive first few years outed only to very close friends and attempting to understand his sexuality better by visiting gay clubs.

29.) “On Enda, On National Coming Out Day” at Trans Group Blog

Sexuality can seem incredibly confusing to most people, and this great blog post by a couple involving an MTF transsexual illustrates how the only things that should matter are comfort and love.

30.) “Guest post: ‘Why Ricky Matters’ by Lorenzo Herrera y Lozano” at Blabbeando

Although many blew off Ricky Martin’s 2010 outing as rather inconsequential to the GLBTQ community, Lorenzo Herrera y Lozano defends his actions as essential to inspiring gay Xicanos to embrace their sexuality and their heritage both – discussing his own experiences in the process.

31.) “I came out to my friend…” at The Lesbian Question

One woman seeks advice about how confused her friend seems once she comes out as a lesbian to a friend who sends out mixed signals and appears to have written her out of her life.

32.) “Coming Out to Parents Videos” at Coming Out 101

A couple of videos inspire members of the GLBTQ community who need to come out to find the right way to let their parents know.

33.) “On Being a Gay Teacher” at Slap Upside the Head

“Being out doesn’t mean I have to be out to everyone” seems to be this schoolteacher’s philosophy on life as a gay man and how he relates to his superiors, coworkers and students.

34.) “Jacob Breslow, intern to both SchoolsOut & LGBT Month tells his story to Pink News” at SchoolsOut

For Jacob Breslow, the act of coming out led him to pursue a life dedicated to promoting GLBTQ rights around the world and do whatever he can to eliminate homophobia and transphobia.

35.) “Here’s Chely Wright’s Coming Out Interview. It’s Actually Pretty Remarkable” at Queerty

Celebrity coming out stories are a dime a dozen these days, but country music star Chely Wright had her own professional hurdles to leap over – and even the peons without the benefit of fame may relate to her suicidal desperation for love and acceptance.

36.) “Concerns about coming out Part 1” at Emerging Butterfly

This former housewife felt relief at coming out as a lesbian, but many concerns about what it means for her children, parents and ex-husband arose from her honesty.

37.) “Who did You Tell Them You Are? Names, Social Security Numbers and Paychecks.” at Queercents

Although recounted by a friend, this positive article on how one company handled the outing of a FTM transsexual sensitively and responsibly illustrates the best possible scenario.

38.) “Interview: Frank Mugisha, Chairman of Sexual Minorities Uganda” at Gays.com

Gay rights activist Frank Mugisha may not go into too many details about his coming out, but the rampant abuses he encountered as a result led him to work tirelessly for GLBTQ rights in his native Uganda.

39.) “My Speech at the Trans Day of Remembrance” at QueerToday.com

Saffo, formerly Fokion, uses her story to comment on the broader, collective struggles that the transgendered face when coming out of the socially-constructed closet.

40.) “Christian Singer Ray Boltz Releases First Album as an Out Gay Man” at GLAADBlog.org

A Christian musician, after coming to terms with his sexuality and his faith alike, uses his talents to express the experience with the hope that others may find themselves inspired.

41.) “Coming Out To My Sister…better late than never” at Card Carrying Lesbian

One lesbian feared outing herself to her sister, a regular churchgoer, and the expected onslaught of bigotry. What she got instead was love, support and no intention of ever changing her sexuality.

42.) “Knowing” at coming out/staying out

Eloquent and evocative, this beautiful blog post dissects the various ways in which GLBTQ people claim to realize when and where their sexuality became apparent to them.

43.) “The High Price of Coming Out for Gay Athletes” at Change.org: Gay Rights

Welsh rugby player Gareth Thomas talks about the stigmas unfairly levied onto GLBTQ athletes and the career hits they take – but he does feel as if the largely positive reaction to his bravery is a step in the right direction.

44.) “‘So how do you have sex?’ and other stupid comments – coming out as queer and disabled” at Lesbilicious

Self-described “butch dyke with cerebral palsy” Eva Sweeney deals with barrages of questions regarding both her sexuality and her disability – when all she really wants to do is enjoy life and never let anything hold her back.

45.) “Progress on the back of a rented limo” at Good As You

Remaining closeted due to social pressure caused one young man to feel uncomfortable at his own prom, and 13 years later he thinks back at how much he wished he could have been more honest with himself and his community.

46.) “Better Late Than Never” at The Advocate

Dr. Jallen Rix peers into the sociopolitical and other factors that lead many people to wait until middle age (or later) to finally out themselves.

47.) “Adams: Being outed was one of the best things to ever happen to me” at Gay Politics

Portland mayor Sam Adams actually considers his status as openly gay a positive step forward for GLBTQ politicians and civil rights alike.

48.) “‘Maddy’ Just Might Work After All” at Modern Love

The New York Times hosts a sweet story in the Modern Love column regarding a MTF transsexual and how her young children proudly embraced her with new nomenclature and plenty of love and acceptance.

49.) “Coming Out” at Big Queer Blog

Warm and humorous, this celebration of National Coming Out Day ’07 illustrates how being a member of the GLBTQ community is decidedly NOT the only facet of one’s core self!

50.) “Ryan’s Story: I Am a Male, Born As a Female” at thelesbianlifestyle.com

Ryan McAlister’s extremely brave decision to out himself as transgendered to his family was met with much-needed love and support, and his decision to undergo surgery lifted off the heavy yoke of depression and despair.

In a world that only just recently woke up to the concept of GLBTQ Civil Rights, it takes impressive, if not superhuman, amounts of strength and self-awareness to come out of the closet. Anyone struggling with their sexuality or sexual identity can take comfort in knowing that they do not walk this oft-cruel world alone. No matter how rejected they may feel as a result of clashes with family, friends, or employers, they need to know that there are people out there who do genuinely love them for them.